Every inaction is an action, in favor of Inertia. Inertia starts with evolution. Its only goal is to pass your genes on, making stability mandatory. Evolution applies some very simple principles: do things the way your predecessors did – they survived and procreated, so stuck to what works; change nothing, except when a threat or reward is visible -changes in behavior are already tried and if they didn’t become the norm, they were a failure; the primary biological motivations for change are Fear or Love in different forms.
Living beings don’t really have a way to fully experience what lays ahead in time. Evolution’s plan to protect our future could only be executed in the present moment. So from every moment to the next, one evolutionary rule of behavior applies. If it more or less works, don’t change it. This is Inertia, the most constant force in your life.
In order to fight Inertia we need inspiration and motivation to overcome resistance and start making changes. Many people look first to routines and planning as a way out of feeling stuck in life. But in I Grow Younger, we think the natural enemies of Inertia are Love and Chaos – the opposite of Fear and Structure! We can do the following when we feel stuck in life: practice Self-Love, feel that your future-you deserves better, let go of old beliefs, take chances and share the benefits.
Self-love is key because it makes you feel you deserve the best for yourself. Love is an internal, Game of Self force. It starts with loving yourself in a healthy way.
The feeling you’re deserving of change has the power to completely defeat the feeling of being stuck in life. What keeps people feeling stuck in life, is the question of merit – whether they’re good enough and worthy enough of a reward. If something is good for you and moral by itself, why would you think or feel you don’t deserve it? There is no merit scale. The world is mostly random. Some people work hard and get nothing, others get good stuff because of their genes, place of birth or pure luck. Fairness is a human concept the universe simply does not support. Take the chance if moral, share the benefits if any. This is all you need to follow. If you want the world to be more fair, just share most or all of the good stuff.
Change happens in several ways: when life forces you to change, when you decide to follow a new life direction, when you fall in love and when you become mentally addicted.
Sometimes an internal change shakes up our own motivations and we end up in Hunter mode. We gradually overcome fears and barriers and follow a course of curiosity and self-love. This reduces damage caused by spending time in Sheep mode and frees us from the harmful influence of Inertia.
The addictions that create the possibility for positive change, contrary to harmful addictions (drugs, alcohol, food, etc), are mental drugs. This creates the space for healthy thoughts if your environment and the people around you are fertile for those.
